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Writer’s Block — How to Keep on Writing Anyway

Friday, January 16th, 2009

Writing is a solitary profession. We park ourselves in front of our computer or yellow tablet and write for hours with no one else around. Only another writer could understand how we feel when we get stuck. Many times writer’s block occurs because of our bad habits and attitudes. Here are some symptoms and remedies to use so that you can get back to your great writing.

1. Procrastination

Procrastination means to postpone or delay needlessly. The key word in that last
sentence is needlessly. This is the perfectionist in you coming out. You have set
such high standards in your writing and you are displeased with anything less. It could
be better, you think.

Solution: Forget about the perfect sentences right now. Just write. Write the
imperfect sentence. Tell yourself, “This is just a first draft.” Get the words out-perfect
or not. You will get someone to proofread and then edit your writing later. I know this is
easier said than done for a perfectionist yet you have to let go of trying to make the first
draft perfect. A good editor will take care of that for you with the second draft.

2. Not enough willpower

Willpower means the ability to carry out your decisions, wishes, or plans. Then
the lack of willpower must mean you can’t follow through on your decisions or plans. Is
that possible? Does someone have a gun to your head? If not, then you do have
control of your Will. You wanted to write, but you can’t? Something is wrong with your
thinking. Ask yourself again, “Is this book important to me and to my readers?”

Solution: How about saying, “Yes, I WILL do it,” and then do it. Well, it’s going to take a little work on your part to believe it. So start your mornings with a litany of positive statements you will say about yourself. Write again
even if it is only one or two sentences to start. Get back to your writing. Work on a
different section if you are stuck. After all you are in charge of your writing and you
don’t have to start at the beginning. Start at the middle or wherever your creative juices
lead you, but keep on writing. The will to finish your book is entirely in your hands.

3. Ran out of Ideas

Whoops! Did you forget to do some preliminary planning to help keep those ideas
flowing?

Solution: Did you identify the purpose of your book? What is the benefit to the
reader? Why should the reader buy your book? Why are you spending your hard
earned time writing this book? Why is your book so important? What problem are you
going to solve for the reader?

Make a list of 10 ways your book will help or entertain the reader. When you are
finished you have 10 chapters or 10 fresh ideas, so now you can continue writing
because you have lots of great ideas for your book.

The key to your writing success is to keep on writing. Never let writer’s block take over
your writing life. When you are stuck identify the reason why. Be aware. Do some of
the activities above, be committed, and keep on writing your great book.

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Public Speaking: Dynamic Range

Friday, January 16th, 2009

I invented the concept of ‘Dynamic Range’ in public speaking to help you improve your versatility as a business presenter, and to help you pick appropriate audiences for your skill and interest level (Did he say ‘pick’ my audiences?). Yes, I did say pick your audiences.

Some of you may not have this luxury because you must speak as part of your job, but those of you that do, will move up faster in the speaking world. When you are a beginning public speaker it is important for you to experience different types of audiences just FOR the experience. You will find that you enjoy certain types of audiences more than others, and certain types of audiences enjoy you more too. As you climb the public speaking ladder where the audiences are bigger, or more important to your career, and the stakes are higher, you must learn to just say no.

Most top public speakers don’t accept every request to speak even if they are available, and the money is right. They pick their speaking engagements to put themselves in front of audiences whose profiles indicate the greatest chance of success. If you are a highly technical presenter, you would not want to be speaking to a widget sales group at their annual retreat. Conversely, as a really fun retreat facilitator, you would not want to be speaking to a group of radar technicians who are only interested in performance data of the latest missile protection system.

You knowledge of your own Dynamic Range when speaking in public will help you learn to pick your audiences and how to expand your abilities so you are capable of handling a wider range of audiences.

I based the concept of Dynamic Range in public speaking on the same concept that is used to rate stereo equipment. Dynamic range in the electronics world means the ability to reproduce soft sounds as well as loud ones. I have expanded on this to include several other parameters that are important to a speaker. These include:

* Serious/Outrageous Content,

* Slow/Fast Speed of Delivery,

* Slurred/Articulate Diction,

* Stationary/Animated Movement, and

* Audience Needs.

The first step to use this system is to evaluate yourself on each parameter. Many people have trouble with this, so it might be time to call in an objective third party like a coach or other accomplished presenter to watch you present or to review several of your tapes. Try to avoid using friends for this initial evaluation because they will be reluctant to tell you the truth.

Quick Fixes

Here are some ways you can increase your range in a hurry.

* If your material is all serious, add some that is lighthearted and vice versa.

* If you always speak softly, speak loudly sometimes and vice versa.

* Always work to improve your diction, but allow it to falter in front of less articulate audiences.

* If you always stand still, move sometimes and vice versa.

If you have the option, pick audiences that give you the greatest chance of success.

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Writing the Resource Box so It Makes People click

Thursday, January 15th, 2009

The internet is the information super highway, this phrase has been used so many times it should be nominated for the Internet Cliché Award. People who go to the internet are subdivided into groups, but generally, they are out to search for information. Whether it’s for gaming, for business, fun or anything else, the internet has provided us with information that has proved to be very beneficial.

Through the recent years, many people have learned the secrets of Search Engine Optimization. More and more sites have seen the effects articles have done for the traffic of their sites. Some have even created sites devoted entirely to providing articles that could be read by their website visitors and have links that could lead to many sites that are related to the topics and subjects of the articles.

For example, the sites may feature many articles about a whole lot of topics. As a website visitor reads the articles they have searched for, they can find at the end of the article a resource box that can be clicked on to link them to the site that has submitted the article. Of course the article would be in relation to the site. Lets say if the article is about rotating the tires, the resource box may lead to a link to a site that sells tires or car parts.

A resource box is what you usually find at the end of an article. They will contain the name of the author, a brief description of the author, a brief description of the sponsoring site and a link. If a reader likes what they read, they would have the tendency to find out where the article came from to read more. The resource box will be their link to the source of the article and this will entice them to go to the site and do some more reading or research for the subject or topic they are interested in.

But like the article itself, the resource box must also be eye-catching to demand the attention and interest of the reader. While the resource box encompasses only a small space, providing the right keywords and content for your resource box will provide more prodding for the reader to go to your site.

Now we know what resource boxes are, what are the benefits of having a good resource box? Mainly its driving traffic to your site. Many sites would allow articles to be placed in their sites because they can make use of the articles to fill their pages. They also get affiliation with other sites that can be beneficial for them as well. For the sponsoring site, when you get people to click on your resource box, you generate traffic that can be counted upon as potential customers.

So what would be a good content for your resource box? Basically it is keywords. Learning about the proper keywords that people are mainly searching for. There are many tools you can find in the internet that can help you in determining what keywords to use.

Resource boxes can also make use of all the creativity it can get. You only get a small space for your resource box so you had better make the most of it. Try to catch the attention of your reader with resource box content that will make them take a second look. Unlike TV ads, you don’t have visual aids to drive your point in. But you do have the power of imagination of a reader. With the right content, you can make them think and, ultimately, click through to your web site.

Another tip is to use keywords that should be related to your site. Do not mislead your potential website visitors. Build your credibility so that more people would get enticed to visit your site and browse what you have to offer. Make the people click your resource box by providing resource box content that makes a lasting impression. You only get one chance to wow them and hundreds of chances to repulse them.

Never underestimate the power of the resource box. It may be small in size but they will provide a significant aid in driving traffic to your site. A boring resource box will never get the job done. Be fun and creative but at the same time show that you have a great deal to offer, too much to ask for something that couldn’t fit a paragraph? Yes and no, there are many tips and guides that can help you in doing this, the first step is realizing how important a resource box could be in making people click your link and be directed to your site.

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Get Discount Sporting Gear Online

Thursday, January 15th, 2009

Sportswear equipment has a very large interest in today’s society owing to how massive an effect sports has on the public. Individuals acquire sporting goods of all types including sporting clothes, team clothing & sporting kit. The greatest way to narrow down where to search for your sportswear supplies is to determine what you are desire. Find superb deals on running equipment.

The World Wide Web is the most well-suited place to look for the sports gear you require. You can stumble upon an overabundance of exceptional sportswear retail outlets online that buy and sell anything and everything interrelated to sports. Even though you do have to pay for shipping & wait for your goods to be delivered to you, the mixture you will have will be far more than those in the actual retail shops.

So where do you even begin to look you might wonder. If you need sportswear supplies, there are a choice of nationwide sportswear retail shops that offer a range of sporting equipment. These shops are convenient for the reason that you can find items for all brands of sports in one central place as well as footwear, sports clothing, outdoor clothing and tennis equipment.

The downside to obtaining sportswear gear at a typical retail shop like these is that you may not buy the best quality stuff on the market presently. Without doubt you can purchase quality products, just not always the top of the line. In order to procure the top of the line sports supplies you will have to go to a retail outlet that particularly sells what you are requiring. If you require football kits then visit a retail shop that specialises on football. If you demand an exact baseball bat, going to a baseball only store will offer you a better chance of getting it.

A further kind of sporting kit that brings in a great amount of interest is team sportswear items. The greatest way to show you obsession for your beloved football team or rugby team is to wear their clothing. Whether you desire a team’s scarf or a favourite sportsperson’s jersey, there is a range of retail shops online & high street stores that you can try to acquire what you’re searching for. One of the well-known stores for sporting items online is Sportswear-Equipment.com.

The Happiness Recipe – Attitude, Memories, and Authentic Communication

Thursday, January 15th, 2009

I’ve done an enormous amount of research on happiness over the years and it is a subject I am continually fascinated by. Human beings are already such incredibly complex creatures. Add on the ever-evolving technological and materialistic age we live in, and happiness seems to become more and more elusive. So what can we do to create more bliss in our busy lives? Here are three happiness nuggets I’ve discovered over the years.

Build happy memories

On vacation a few years ago, we packed the kids into the car and drove down to Cape Cod. It was cold, wet and miserable. After a few days the sun broke through the rain clouds, and we headed off to the beach in Chatham. Far off in the distance, we saw a strange black mass. Rocks? What was it? We kept on walking. As we neared that big black mass, we discovered, much to our surprise, a huge group of over two hundred seals playfully lollygagging on a sandbar, one hundred feet in front of us! The kids fell madly in love with the cute, plump baby seals gazing at us with huge, moist brown eyes. We parked ourselves on the beach, sitting in awe of the wonderful scene, enjoying it for hours on end.

Do you think that the kids are happy when I bring up that memory? Absolutely! It lights up their faces (and mine) every time. Do they think about their discarded video games the same way? Heck, no! Memories like that last a lifetime. And it doesn’t have to be cute baby seals. How about a hike in the mountains? Or a trip to the zoo? Happy memories last a lifetime, “stuff “doesn’t.

A great attitude is only one thought away.

How many times have you asked someone at work, at the grocery store, or even friends, “How’s it going,” only to be met with a mumbled, “Not too bad”? I’ve come across plenty of unhappy people, especially in the service industry, to the point where I try to avoid any scowling, grumbling or just plain mean people who seem to be living their lives in a perpetual funk. But there’s a particular lady at my grocery store who always has a bright smile on her face, a cheery hello and will go the extra mile to happily clip out coupons for me! I always try to pass through her cash because she makes my day that much happier. She expresses herself in such an unabashedly joyful manner that I highly doubt she comes into work with that “It’s not going too bad” that we all hear time and time again.

Not going too bad?? That just saddens me. So, choose your mannerisms, body language and words carefully. How about “It’s going great”? Along with a great big smile, of course! You’ll have people doing a quick double take and maybe you’ll even pass your mood along to others. The power of attitude is simply amazing.

Old ladies in Italy probably don’t worship the Internet and have Ipods.

During a trip to Florence, Italy, I peered out my window one morning and was struck by a scene of older Italian ladies amicably chatting together. Adding to the charm was all the washed, white bed sheets flapping on clotheslines over the street – the sort of scene out of an old movie. These ladies certainly don’t sit in front of a computer and chat over the Internet! And that’s what’s scary about our supposedly technologically superior culture. It was supposed to bring us closer together. Remember global community and all that jazz? But has it brought us closer together?

We seem to spend more time hunkered down in front of computers or video games, oblivious to our neighbours in our cocoon of electronics and suburbia. Connecting with friends, neighbours and your kids can be deeply satisfying when all the technological clutter is pushed aside. And those connections are the most genuine and will probably be the happiest you have. Those Italian ladies were really enjoying their face-to-face time. Maybe it’s time for a little less e-mail and chat sites and a little more authentic communication in order to reconnect with our humanness. We’ll be that much happier for it.

Let’s make a little happiness recipe.

One brimming cup of ever lasting wonderful memories,

One packed cup of positive attitude,
One overflowing cup of authentic communication.

Mix well.

Makes many delightful servings.

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A Prolific South Carolina Travel Author and Writer

Thursday, January 15th, 2009

Today, Norm Goldman, Editor of Bookpleasures.com and Sketchandtravel.com is excited to have as our guest, Barbie Perkins-Cooper.

Barbie is a playwright, travel writer, author and an award winning screenwriter. Barbie lives in Charleston, South Carolina and is an expert on SC as well as North Carolina and other geographical areas. Barbie is also the author of a soon to be published Insides’ Guide to Asheville, NC

Good day Barbie and thank you for agreeing to participate in our interview.

Norm:

Please tell our readers a little bit about your personal and professional background. When did your passion for travel writing begin and when did you start traveling? What keeps you going? How do you come up with ideas for what you write? What methods do you use to flesh out your idea to determine if it’s salable?

Barbie:

Thank you Norm. It is a pleasure to be here and to discuss travel writing. I have been a writer since the third grade of elementary school. My first science fiction story was published many, many years ago, all to the credit of my third grade teacher and father. Of course, like most kids, I failed to see the thrill and passion of writing until later in life. In the 1980’s I suffered from depression and started writing again. Looking back, I discovered I did have a flair for words, so I joined a writers group giving myself ten years to achieve something, or I’d only write for fun and family letters.

In 1994, after writing my first screenplay, I entered a few screenplay competitions, after suggestions from my agent, and I was selected as a finalist. My passion for travel writing started in 2003 after attending a travel writing workshop hosted by Sharon Spence Lieb. She inspired me so much that I had to put my credentials to the test. Within 24 hours, I had my first FAM trip. I have been working as a travel writer since October 2003. At first, it was a struggle, but with each decline, I persevered, determined to achieve my goals.

Since I write (and revise) my goals every January, my goal for 2005 was to target guidebook publishers. I developed a proposal, based on the Charleston, SC community. Because I was still working full-time at a college, like most writers, my desk was stacking high with e-mails and snail mail to read. I targeted the higher paying markets, at first.

In December 2004, I submitted a query to a travel guide site, pitching an idea about Charleston. The editor responded stating she had just finalized the Charleston guidebook but she liked my style and wanted me to keep in touch. Flash forward to May of 2005. The clock was ticking as my job was downsized and I had no clue what I would do after June 2 when my career in the Corporate World ended. I knew I wanted to write, so I reread my dusty goals, and those cluttered e-mails, finding the correspondence with the editor. Quickly, I sent her another e-mail, and within minutes (or so it seemed) she responded, wanting a proposal from me within three days. I wrote the shortest proposal in history and sent it to her.

After a few weeks of negotiations, we agreed on the contract and now I am working on my first guidebook, Insiders’ Guide to Asheville, NC, scheduled for publication in the spring of 2007. My father lived in Asheville for many years, and I have several friends there, so I felt comfortable writing about the city. After that doorway opened, a few magazines I had targeted previously responded to my queries and now, I am publishing travel stories on a regular basis.

The things that keep me going are the people, places, and things I discover while traveling. I love meeting the people and discovering the flavor of the area.

On a recent trip to one of the devastated areas from Hurricane Katrina, I met a displaced man from New Orleans. Although he had relocated, he still had a passion for life. He will be a character I use in a story. The stories I discover at each location inspire me to look deep within to discover the actions and characters revealed. Not only is there a character, there is adventure.

While traveling, you get to try new adventures you never anticipated before. On a trip to Alabama, we visited the Alabama Music Hall of Fame. My goal and dream as a teenager was to become a famous singer. Unfortunately, I never pursued that dream until I stepped into the Alabama Music Hall of Fame, and there, I was able to record a song while the group cheered me on. My dream was now reality!

On a trip to Kentucky, I interviewed blue grass musicians, coal miners, male quilt makers, and singers. During each interview, I discovered that regardless who they were, despite all of the adversities in life, these people held a passion for life in their hearts, and a love for their town and artistry. Each time I meet and interview someone, I am inspired with new stories to tell. On another trip, I met a mother who was desperate to save her daughter’s school in Kentucky. The more we talked, the more I realized this was a story I needed to tell others, and I am still sending queries pertaining to her story and the educational plans of Kentucky.

The methods I use to determine if a story is marketable are to determine the angle I will use and I research the markets, answering the questions:

Who is the story targeting to and what angle?

What markets may I approach?

Who cares about this story?

Resources I use weekly are:

Writersmarket.com

Writer’s Guidelines, 4th Edition by Brigitte M. Phillips, Susan D. Klassen, and Doris Hall

The Internet

Fortunately, after many hurdles, I now have editors approaching me about story ideas. It’s taken me years to accomplish this, but it is exciting to finally have regular assignments. Nevertheless, I still have a goal of sending five query letters out weekly, and I have an idea spreadsheet that I update with new story ideas, almost on a weekly basis. I encourage all writers to write goals down. Build an ideas file, update on a regular basis, and never give up. Always remember, one editor’s rejection will be another editor’s acceptance. It has certainly happened to me, and each time, I’ve submitted that same query, or an updated version, to another market.

Norm:

As you are very familiar with South Carolina, if you had to choose eight of the most romantic venues for a wedding celebration, honeymoon, or romantic getaway, which ones would you choose and why?

Barbie:

Eight romantic venues in the South Carolina area for weddings would be:

Any of the beautiful churches in the downtown area of Charleston are romantic and stunning for weddings. There are so many that it would be really hard to choose which one, although St. Michael’s Episcopal Church is the one that really stands out in my mind.

Grace Episcopal Church is another breathtaking beauty for a wedding. The architecture, statues, and ceilings are stunning.

Sullivan’s Island Beach I’ve seen several beach weddings along the shores of Sullivan’s Island. With the backdrop of the ocean, and the sand dunes along the shore, the view makes for a beautiful setting.

Alhambra Hall a garden wedding on the lawn, overlooking the harbor of Charleston and our new signature bridge the Arthur Ravenel, Jr. Bridge. Many of the weddings are held on the lawn, decorated with all white chairs draped in white bows, ribbons, and flowers, lining the walkway for the bride. One particular wedding had a red and white theme, a red carpet, white chairs and the bridal attendants dressed in red. This was an afternoon wedding and was gorgeous. At Alhambra Hall, the reception may be held either outside or in the fellowship hall area. This building was remodeled after Hurricane Hugo and it is a beautiful, romantic setting for receptions, weddings, and family reunions. Book it early it usually has a long waiting list!

Magnolia Gardens Magnolia Plantation and Gardens is another dramatic place to hold a wedding, especially during the spring time when the gardens are in full bloom. There is a beautiful white bridge serving as a backdrop that makes a gorgeous site, also, a gazebo. Since the trend in Charleston is to host a wedding outside near the gardens, Magnolia Plantation is definitely a romantic place to make the special, romantic times of a wedding spectacular.

Park locations including the Waterfront Park, located in downtown Charleston, White Point Gardens, Hampton Park, and Washington Park. Waterfront Park provides the scenery of the harbor, and deep in the horizon a view of the new bridge previously mentioned. The other parks have breathtaking views serving as a mesmerizing backdrop, so any of the parks in Charleston, especially during the spring time, can make a beautiful wedding. For additional information about park weddings visit HERE

The Citadel If you’ve never visited Charleston and driven by the Citadel, you are missing a great picturesque view. Summerall Chapel hosts a variety of weddings. The campus, complete with landscapes, interesting architecture and military history is beautiful. CLICK HERE

Boone Hall Plantation with the sweeping landscapes, plantation home, and the history attached to Boone Hall Plantation, this is the perfect location to have a traditional Southern wedding, full of charm, heritage, and romance that would make Scarlett and Rhett envious.

In the Charleston community, there are so many romantic and beautiful sites it is truly difficult to narrow the locations down to only eight. Since I love the ocean, I enjoy the beauty of the city at the Battery, and while walking along the beach. For additional sites to consider, CLICK HERE

Norm:

What does travel mean to you? As a traveler and fact/story-gatherer, what is your biggest challenge on the road and how do you overcome these challenges.

Barbie:

If I had to define travel, I would define it as a thrilling adventure and exploration about life and people. I find people fascinating. I enjoy watching them, their body language, and their zest for life. Almost everyone has a story to tell and to share.

The biggest challenge I have while traveling is sometimes I am so rushed I don’t have enough time to get all the ideas completed. These ideas dance inside my head until I can get them down on paper. That is why I always ask for contact information because I know I’ll have additional questions when I transcribe the notes.

I practice the idea of following up by sending thank you letters within two weeks of my trips, and I try to point out something significant that happened during my trip. Another practice I strive for is to take photographs plenty of digital photographs! If I have an image as reference, my brain will usually retrieve the information.

Norm:

Besides writing travel articles, what other writing gigs have you found profitable or rewarding? As a follow up, you have written in various genre, which ones do you prefer, i.e. travel writing, screen writing, etc

Barbie:

You’ll laugh when I share this information! Although I am a travel writer, many of my credentials are in construction. Since my husband was in construction for many years, I broke into the construction industry, writing stories about highway roadbeds, tilt wall construction, bridge construction, shopping center renovations, John Deere and Komatsu equipment, and a few stories about the construction workers.

Although the pay wasn’t well, it was a stepping stone for me to break into magazine and newspaper writing, and the stories were regular, dependable assignments. Other genres I’ve written for include health and beauty, elder care, business journals, hospitality, food, bedding (a recent story about the new Revive Marriott bed) military venues, and of course, travel.

In 2001, I published a non-fiction memoir titled A Condition of Limbo. I’ve also written seven screenplays, four plays, and I am presently writing a memoir titled, Chattahoochee Child. In October 2005, that story won second place at the South Carolina Writers Workshop writer’s conference held in Myrtle Beach, SC. Lately, most of my time is spent on my guidebook. The deadline for the final project is scheduled for June 2006, with the spring 2007 as the publication date. I am excited about this project and continue to schedule time to write travel stories.

Norm:

What advice would you give to someone who is considering going into travel writing in order to achieve success?

Barbie:

My friends tease me constantly about writing so much, but as we know, life is a challenge. Life is much too short to look back with regret, so every day, I strive to make the most of that day. Writing is something I attempt to schedule on a daily basis, although as writers know, life does have a way of breaking into the demands of our busy lives. Writers must continue to work towards their goals and dreams and never give up. We must persevere with belief and pride for what we do.

The best advice I would give to a writer considering travel writing is to learn all that you can learn and to establish your goals every January. I am constantly adjusting my goals, but for 2005, my goal was to land a book contract. Following the guidelines I wrote, I achieved that goal this year by following up with editors. I have a notebook on my desk titled Follow up. I file all comments from editors, contacts, etc. in that booklet and refer to it at least once a month.

Networking is crucial. Last week while on a press trip I met an editor and now I have an assignment with her. Networking is the key.

If truly interested in travel writing, contact the Convention and Visitors Bureaus (CVB’s) introduce yourself along with your credentials and request consideration to be added to their press list. I have made many contacts by doing this. Most of them are most receptive to assisting with story ideas and they will make suggestions.

Another suggestion is to start out slow. I made the attempt to break into the bigger markets, only to discover the majority of them have staff writers they use. I write for trade and regional magazines, and now I’m writing a guidebook. The most important suggestion I would tell anyone wanting to break into travel writing is to never give up. A writer must keep marketing. Build a web site (or hire someone else to do this for you). I am not a web master, so I use resources that will assist me. Carry business cards everywhere, and introduce yourself as a writer. After all, if you don’t believe in yourself, how can others believe in you?

Norm:

Is there anything else you wish to share with us that we have not covered?

Barbie:

Yes, I would like to end this interview by saying you must move forward and believe in yourself. Whenever a writer receives a rejection, move on to the next submission. Once, for a construction magazine, I sent a spec assignment, only to discover the editor did not like it. He phoned me stating that he was returning it because it did not meet his needs. I thanked him and moved on, looking for another market. Exactly 24 hours later, I received a phone call from the same publication, but a different editor. He stated he needed an invoice to pay me for the story. I was shocked, stating that only yesterday I was told it was being returned. He replied that he was the new editor and was publishing the story verbatim and he needed an invoice.

This is only one example of how we must persevere. What is one editor’s rejection could be another editor’s acceptance. Never give up! Find your stories while looking for the unique characters. Develop your voice and style. Listen to what your editors say, but believe in your talent, passion, and ability to communicate. Practice your goals, readjust when necessary, and make certain you follow up and practice what you preach to others.

Thanks once again and good luck with all of your future endeavors.

Norm Goldman - EzineArticles Expert Author

Norm Goldman is the Editor of the travel site, Sketchandtravel.com and the book reviewing and author interviewing site Bookpleasures.com.

Norm is also a travel writer and together with his artist wife, Lily, this unique couple meld words with art focusing on romantic destinations.

Norm also offers an express book review service that you can find out more about by clicking on: bookpleasures.com under the heading of express review services.

Making the Second Wedding a Family Event

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

Second weddings can be awkward events for families. It is hard enough sometimes getting adjusted to the new member and a new family along with it. It can be difficult not only on the new couple, but also any children that they have. The wedding should be a smooth transition and uniting of two families into one. It is also important to make sure the kids feel comfortable and enjoy themselves.

Generally it seems that second weddings are usually smaller, more close selection of guests and family members. This can really help families get adjusted to the marriage, especially children. This can also really help get the children more involved in the wedding. They can be a part of the wedding party, taking up spots like ushers, bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers, and even best man. It’s a good way to show the children that family still comes first, especially if they have been hurt or depressed about the original breakup or even death of their other parent.

The right place is also important. A place that the whole family can enjoy too can be a wise choice. It could be like a mini-vacation. Not only do they get to celebrate the marriage, but they also get time together to bond and have fun. Input from the kids here can be important and help make the transition smoother. A nice getaway to a private outdoor place or to the city or your family’s favorite vacation spot can be perfect to help strengthen the second wedding.

Even letting the children pick out little details about the wedding will help them feel like a better part of the ceremony. Maybe ideas about food, flowers, color scheme, guest seating, and stuff like this can bring the family together a little more. Not to say that they have complete say or know everything, considering it isn’t their wedding, but allowing them to at least speak their mind will reassure them of their importance in the family through hard times.

If there are older children, teen years or higher, then they may want to contribute to the wedding in a more unique and personal way. Depending on their talents and interests, they could sing a song, paint a picture, or even read a poem they wrote to celebrate the moment. These little touches of themselves in the wedding decorations and celebration helps them to understand it’s not just about two people falling in love, but it’s also about still keeping the family together and happy.

The important thing is to remember that even though it may be a wonderful time for you and your new spouse, it can be a confusing time for the children. Making it more intimate for the whole family can start the foundation off right to a new chapter in everyone’s life.

Jake Rose is an artist and an author from Massachusetts.

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Planning Your Wedding

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

Since the divorce rate is at an all time high many are asking when and if they should marry? It is interesting that at the beginning of the 20th Century men were in their late twenties before getting married.

In the early part of 1960 half of all girls in the USA were married by their twentieth birthday. Males were about two years older.

The 90’s saw many getting married while still in their teen years. This no doubt accounts at least in-part for the high percentage of divorces. The national statistics reveal that teenage marriages are the most unstable with the highest chance of divorce. Many of them marry out of emotional impulse and pre-marital pregnancies which lead to a higher risk of divorce.

At the present time those entering into wedlock are taking longer to decide about marriage. However, some are attempting a trial habitation to see if it might work.

When are you ready for marriage and how do you know if proper preparation has been taken for a successful marriage? There is no absolutely guarantee for success…

There are at least 3 areas to consider in determining if you are properly prepared for a life long commitment.

Maturity

You should be mature enough to take on the personal responsibilities of a family. Granted this may be some what subjective, but there are ways to measure the maturity level. If you are not sure what those responsibilities are, or even if you do know, it is advantageous to speak with someone who is well capable of addressing the responsibilities of a couple.

Studies have indicated that the best age to enter marriage is early to mid-twenties. This is the age that most men are either out of school or have performed their military service to their country. Likewise the women are out of school by this age as well. At this particular time most have had their share of dating experiences and desire to begin the process of settling down.

At the same time, however, chronological age is not necessarily proof that one is mature. Women seem to mature earlier than men, but that is not always the case. There are many factors in a persons background that either enhances their maturity or retard it. Therefore, each person has to be considered separatley.

You should, however, evaluate not only your own life, but your potential partner as well. Do not leave the evaluation process up to someone else. You do the evaluating. You may want someone’s advice, but you must have your eyes “wide open”.

What are you looking for in your evaluation? Start with the reasoning behind getting married. Why do you both want to be married? It is not enough to say that you love each other. Wouldn’t you assume that most people who are now divorced would have said they loved each other in the beginning? Not all of course, but most “fall” in love and get married.

Look deeper than the love aspect! Are there clues of immaturity such as: wanting to be out of the parent’s authority; desiring a sexual relationship; escaping educational responsibilities; etc. These may be good reasons for marriage, but more often than not, they are poor reasons.

The emotional aspect of love is very fickle. It comes and goes, so look for intellectual reasons for getting married. Do you both complement one another with your strengths and weaknesses? Do you both have the same type of objectives in life? Do you enjoy participating in similar events?

Educational

Have you both completed your education? This is a judgment call whether you should have it completed prior to marriage. It may be beneficial to have it completed so you are able to focus on your studies and extra-curricular activities.

There also may be less resentment if both partners have their education completed. Many times the wife drops out of college to put her husband through school, then, she never gets back to her own educational goals. Once the dust settles (her husband is in his career, children are all in school) regret, anger, and resentment begin to knock on the wife’s heart.

Financial

Not everyone is able to be financially independent at the time of marriage, but financial stability is a good place to begin a marriage. If you are deeply indebt or do not have a reliable occupation it may behoove you to postpone the ceremony a bit longer.

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Fat And Happy in 10 Steps

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

It’s no wonder many believe they are sub-human because they’re overweight. It’s the message sent to fat people from every direction. Even if you ignore the media, just listen to your family and friends; you’ve probably heard them say some very hurtful thingsand, this from people that love you.

Happiness is a personal choice and it is available to you.

But, if it were so simple you wouldn’t be feeling bad, and I wouldn’t have written this article. I believe you can be Fat And Happy and I see it as a simple 10-step process:

Accept that you deserve to be happy.
Even if you never progress to the steps below, carry this thought with youI deserve to be happy. For years, people have been telling you otherwise and your subconscious mind is convinced that happiness cannot happen until something else happens first (like losing weight, being in love, having children.) Nothing has to happen before happinesshappiness is the first item on your agenda. You can always find reasons to be sad, depressed, or angry. Instead of focusing on what brings you down, focus on what brings you up.

Smile
It is difficult to be sad when you’re smiling. Smiling makes you feel like a new person. Smiling also allows others to know you’re happy. Put a smile on your face and greet everyone you meet with happinessthis alone could positively change your life.

Spend time with other people
If you’re alone too much it gives you too much time to focus on yourself. Spend time with other happy motivated people. Happiness is contagious, allow the happiness of others to benefit your life and benefit others with the happiness you radiate.

Believe in a power greater than yourself
Having a belief (and faith) in a supreme being allows you to place the burdens of your life on a higher power. It allows you to pray for strength, peace, and happiness and through faith you can have happiness in the most adverse of times.

Guard the Information you allow into your mind
Negative input, even through television and magazines, can place roadblocks on your path to happiness. Limit your time watching the news, its generally bad news. Limit your time with negative people, negative thoughts are contagious. Avoid violent films of any kind and make your entertainment uplifting. I’ve heard it said many times “Garbage in equals’ garbage out.” Everything you see, hear, or say affects your lifeand your mood. Keep happiness in front of you as much as possible.

Speak kindly to yourself
The way you speak to yourself affects your happiness. Stop all the negative talk today. When you look good tell yourself you look good. When you do a good deed, allow yourself to be happy. How you speak to yourself affects your happiness, stop the bad talk today. You are a perfect creation of Godalways remember that.

Be happy with what you have
Don’t be jealous of others. I challenge you to write down 50 reasons to be grateful. You’ll see you have a lot to be grateful for. If you have difficulty coming up with 50 things, incorporate gratitude into your life. Just having a comfortable chair is a reason to be gratefulnow jot down 49 more.

Be generous
Albert Camus said it best, “Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.” When you help others, whether it is with money or your time, you see the positive impact you have in the world. Being positive and helping others generates happiness quicker than anything I know of.

Learn to say no
Sometimes we feel we have to please everyone, but by doing so we fill our time with activities that do not promote our own happiness. If you are true to your own happiness there will be many times you must say no. Saying no is an honorable responseyou have a right to say no. Example: “Sorry, no, I would have watched your dog next weekend, but my friends and I have planned a trip. I will try to help you out next time if I can.” Then, stick with your response; don’t let anyone “guilt” you into doing things that get in the way of your happinessever!

Set Goals
Studies tell us that only 3% of people in the United States set goals, and they are the wealthiest people in the nation. Write down all your dreams, wait a couple of days and go over the listdetermine if they are really your goals. Then, take the top three most desired, realistic, obtainable long-term goals and write them on an index card. Carry this card with you and refer to the goals each time you have to make a decision about your life. Now, take additional cards and write short-term goals that support your long-term goals. Visualize your goals and set an action plan to achieve them. Continue breaking down the goals into smaller easier short goals that keep you on plan. The process of setting goals and targets allows you to choose where you want to go in life.

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Screenwriting and the AntiHero’s Journey: Alienation not Synergy

Friday, January 9th, 2009

The Hero’s Journey is the template upon which the vast majority of successful stories and Hollywood blockbusters are based upon – understanding this template is a priority for story or screenwriters.

The Hero’s Journey:

Attempts to tap into unconscious expectations the audience has regarding what a story is and how it should be told.

Gives the writer more structural elements than simply three or four acts, plot points, mid point and so on.

Interpreted metaphorically, laterally and symbolically, allows an infinite number of varied stories to be created.

The Hero’s Journey is also a study of repeating patterns in successful stories and screenplays. It is compelling that screenwriters have a higher probability of producing quality work when they mirror the recurring patterns found in successful screenplays.

The difference between hero, anti-hero and other variations simply lies in situation, motivation and result. In fact, the antihero is simply an archetype. What is important is that the anti-hero, hero and other variations all undergo the same process to attain their respective apotheoses and beyond.

Alienation NOT synergy

One important distinction to note between hero and antihero is synergy versus alienation. Where the hero’s allies will come to his aid, the anti-hero’s allies will betray. Where the hero’s allies will tend to gravitate toward the hero the antihero’s allies will leave. This usually takes effect in the stage of the Ultimate Boon and beyond:

In Raging Bull (1980), Jake La Motta ends up alone – Vickie, Joey and all the other characters that partook in the story disappear toward the end.

In Lord of War (2005), Yuri loses his brother, his trophy wife leaves him and his parents disown him.

In Goodfellas (1999), Paul Cicero explicitly states that he “has to let Henry go.” Alienation is especially true of Mentors. They rarely remain.

In A Fistful of Dynamite (1971), Juan Miranda (Rod Steiger) is left standing and muttering…”what about me…?”

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Kal Bishop is a management consultant based in London, UK. His specialities include Knowledge Management and Creativity and Innovation Management. He has consulted in the visual media and software industries and for clients such as Toshiba and Transport for London. He has led Improv, creativity and innovation workshops, exhibited artwork in San Francisco, Los Angeles and London and written a number of screenplays. He is a passionate traveller. He can be reached at http://managing-creativity.com/